Jay-Z Wants You To Let Go of Empty Friendships

When the relationship no longer serves either person, it’s okay to pivot.

“Everybody look at you strange say you changed, like you worked that hard to stay the same” — Jay-Z, “Most Kingz”

Welcome one and all to another edition of my Medium column, “What Would Hov Do?” where I handle some of your most pressing life questions with the help of Jay-Z lyrics. I know, what took so long?!

This week, “New Friends” has a good question that I think all of us have struggled with at some point or another:

“How do I let go of friends who no longer align with my energy?”

Life is seasonal — things, people, all come and go. Nothing stays the same. Life is transient, and we’re always in motion, moving and shifting and pivoting. What worked ten years ago may not be the same as what worked ten days ago. The relationships we have with one another are no different. We can grow together just like we can grow apart. And that’s okay.

When we’re intentional with the relationships we have and how we show up, we can see how a once-thriving relationship is now moving in a different direction. That doesn’t mean anything is wrong with either person. In my case, the things I wanted to do changed when I turned 30. Things…